selfishness

I know of a real life story. A mother wanting to give up her 2 young kids(the youngest is not even 1 yr old) to be together with a married man who has 1 kid. What has the world becoming? She want to have a divorce with her husband, claiming that they are incompatible in many ways, and she could not live together and tolerate him anymore. The husband may be taking her for granted in the past, but if really need to go separate ways because of imcompatibility. That is fine....but what about the kids....shouldn't she take the custody of the kids? I cannot comprehend why a mother doesn't want her kids....... There are pple who try all means to have kids, but they can't. There are pple who love kids so much that they adopt one. And now this mother who has 2 kids, want to forsake the kids just to go after a married man.

If she were my sister, i would give her a few slaps on the face. WTF.
damn angry when i think about the 2 children, the youngest was not even 1 yr old, and her parents are separating.

incompatility is only a reason for marriage if there is no 3rd party. Just divorce and get back to your life, you still have ur kids with you....now she is using her husband weakness and the incompatibility issue to justify her divorce, which i find it is just selfishness. Divorce and kids are 2 separate issue. if really incompatilibilty, you will only divorce the husband, but the kids you will still love them. But now because you fall in love with somebody else, then you want to have YOUR own happiness, you dun wan your kids....it only means selfishness, and your incompatibility reasoning makes no sense.

And what if the another married guy is not serious in the relationship? Maybe he is just fooling around, which i think is highly possible. I dun think his wife know about it. Probably he is lying, saying he is planning to divorce. I think this divorce thing will never happen.

I cannot understand this married woman, what is she thinking. She is not a 20 yr old young gal. Already in mid 30s......what the hell is she doing!
5 years down the road, she is going to regret. That guy that she claim she trusted, would have still been living happily with his wife and kid. And she a divorce woman who forsake her kids, will be hated by her own kids. And worse if she were to get pregnant with that guy who is lying to her, no one will pity her, and i'm 100% sure that guy will run away and leave her to face her own problem.

I have never been so angry b4. something which seems to be happening in tv series has happen in real life. If I know her well enough, i would have give her a few tight slaps and kick her back to reality. She think she is sleeping beauty or what.......she think got prince to rescue her from her so call "boring" life? If really got prince, he would not want a woman who has no heart, who can forsake own children. If you love a person, you accept what the person is, you accept his/her children if she/he have any.

Do you think this person is truly loving you when he only want you, and not your children? If he really love you, he would have let you go and not entering this adultery relationship. You betray ur marriage and he betray his......so what is the point of getting married? If you cannot make up ur mind to spend the rest of your life with a person, dun take the oath......promises are meant to be kept not broken.

I cannot understand.........how can a mother do this to her kids? I know of pple who wanted kids very much, who miscarriage for many times, who try many years, and pple who had still born kids, pple who leave the hospital ward with no baby. whenever i read these real life story i will cry together with these mothers-to-be. They wanted to be mothers so much, but some never had this chance.

After i give birth to my gal, i finally understand the feeling and thoughts of a mother. kids are blessing....i miss my gal alot when i din get to see her. everyday when go to work,i will think of my ger....when i am not doing teaching, when i am back at my desk, i will think of her......at least 5times everyday, she will come into my mind. I will think about what she will be doing at my mum house, is she eating her porriage, is she sleeping, is she playing....I will want to go jurong to visit her, but sometimes i cannot....i have my lessons to prepare, i have my books to mark.

I think family is the most impt foundation. if family is not strong, alot of things will not work out, you canot work efficently. your mind will be thinking about other things all the time. I think next yr, i will take part time teaching, so that i will have more time with my ger. money is just money. i dun mind lesser money and lesser workload. i am not an ambitious person. I dun need to climb watever ladder to go up the top. All i need/want is a life that is happy......and i know this happiness need to work on, not something that will come by itself....

marking done

Today, the O level Mother Tongue June paper marking is completed.
Tomolo I can go school to do some work, then friday i can go and see my ger and fetch her home.
Tues then will send her back Jurong. I have a few days to play with her.
my ger is now coming 10 months. She can now stand when holding on to things, cannot stand on her own yet. She now learned how to clap her hands and trying to learn how to nod her head, but when she nod, her whole body move together with the head movement, look very funni.
Now she is more and more cheeky. She only call "ba ba", refused to call any other pple, not even my mum. She used to call " ba ba", "ma ma" very often and she also know how to call "ah ma", but she just dun wan to call now. Her favourite word is "mum mum"(eat), seems like she is also high metabolism like me, eat and eat, seems to be hungry most of the time and she eat almost anything....apple, pear, papaya, honey dew, cabbage, green vege, potato, pumpkin, cauli flower, fish, porriage, rice, biscuit, bread, egg etc.
Now waiting for her to learn how to stand on her own and hopefully when she turn 1 year old she can walk.

I have bought her 2 swim suits, but still no opportunity to bring her swimming.( even though i can't swim, but introduce her to water/swimming early will be good, scare next time when she older, she will be scare of water, then difficult to get her learn)

I hope this weekend can bring her to swim.

updates

currently I'm marking the june o level papers at tiong bahru. officially, my duty will end next friday...still a long way to go.

For this 2 weeks, will be seeing Ms Chua and Mdm Lim everyday and eat lunch together.

This June holiday is very short. After marking, left one week, but 2 days on course and 1 day staff meeting. I'm left with about 2 days to do lesson preparation. No time to set CA papers. Sighz........

Thought of preparing more stuff for my Literature class, seems like no time also....